Wow. Three whole months. I find it very difficult to believe that I have been a wife for three months. Some days it feels like a week, while other days it feels like forever. A lot has happened in 90 short days, so here is a quick sum up!
Jobs: Jerrad and I are both working right now. I keep telling him that I am WAY too adorable to be working, but apparently adorable doesn’t pay bills. Weird. I am subbing for Moore Public Schools. I love 3rd-5th, and despise all other grades. Kindergarteners are too small and don’t understand personal space. 6th graders are rude and obnoxious. If we have children, they will be living in OH with their grandparents during their 6th grade year. Mom and Dad don’t know that yet, but I’m sure they will be VERY excited when they read this! Jerrad continues to work for the post office, and is doing well. We hope that he will be a regular worker by April. He has also added Domino’s, as well as Uber and Lyft, to his resume.
Church: We are moving church locations! We are staying with VFC, but will transition to the Shawnee Campus starting in January, 2022. The Shawnee Campus will officially launch in March, 2022. I am very excited to get back into church launching. If you’ve been keeping up with my writing, you know church planting/launching is very much my background. You also know there was some drama not too long ago, and I left church planting with no intention of going back. But God has given me a season of rest, and I believe that I’m ready for this! Jerrad is very excited to continue volunteering with Prayer Team, as well as VFC Youth. I am hoping to get involved with the Administrative Team, as well as the Care Team. Jerrad and I both believe very strongly in serving with the different gifts God has given us. Someone tried to tell me that we needed to serve on the same team because we’re married. But we have different gifts, and that makes zero sense. So, we’re not going to do that. We’re going to let God use us in the areas he has gifted us.
Sex: Ya’ll know I had strong opinions about the way the church world, and the secular world, handle this topic before I got married. That hasn’t changed. Like any good Christian girl, I was VERY excited for sex! I think the world does an absolutely TERRIBLE job of talking about sex, whether you believe in abstinence or not. It is terrible. So, I’m gonna talk about it. Sex is a very personal, vulnerable, (especially for women) thing. It is so much more than a physical act. There is a ton of emotion that goes into it. It’s also a learning process. People respond to sex in different ways, and a committed marriage allows a husband and wife to learn together. Learning together makes your marriage stronger, and makes sex better. It’s great! 10/10 recommend.
Marriage: Like sex, I’m very opinionated about marriage as well. And, like sex, both the secular world and the church world, do a terrible job of discussing marriage. The church world is the worst, in my opinion. If you are a single woman, you might as well be invisible. You barely exist, and are considered the lowest of the low on the totem pole. Your job is to make everyone else’s life easier, even if that means sacrificing your own spiritual, mental, emotional, or physical health. And, if you’re not willing to do that, then you’re not ‘doing what God has called you to do’. Bullshit. It is complete and total bullshit. It honestly should be the opposite. Churches should work twice as hard to serve singles, as they do to serve married people. Single people need it more. I will hold onto that opinion for forever. Anyway! Marriage is great. Like sex, it is a learning process. Committing to a lifetime with someone who never goes away is hard. Marriage is fun, and 10/10 recommend! But it is a huge commitment. And it doesn’t make you better than those who aren’t married.
BABIES!: Admit it. Ya’ll have been waiting for this one. What are Annie and Jerrad going to do about babies? I’ll tell you…Nonyabusiness. It truly amazes me that people actually think the status of my uterus is anyone’s business, other than mine and my husband’s. Jerrad and I have bounced around ideas. Adoption, foster care, having our own…All are good ideas, and we will most likely do a combination of the three. IF we decide to have children at all. Children are NOT a requirement of marriage. Yes, the Bible says to ‘Increase and multiply’. It also says women shouldn’t wear makeup or cut their hair. So, worry about you, Karen.
All in all, life is great. Jerrad and I dream about different improvements to the house. We talk about adventures we could go on. We fight because he breathes all over me, and I fart in bed. We laugh a lot. And then we wake up, and start again. And, somehow, time goes by and we will be at four months before we know it!
The OK Adventures of Peppersloth and Annie 
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